What is expected of parents of children with ASD?
One of the best pieces of advice I ever got, was “Suit up and show up.” Woody Allen once said “80 percent of success is showing up.” And so it is… Certainly, if you don’t show up, your likelihood of success in any endeavor is hugely diminished. You can’t win a game you won’t play. But showing up is more than just physically being present. It’s also about arriving mentally ready for an opportunity and suiting up speaks to much more than just the physical clothes you wear. It also speaks to the positive mental attitude that you are on the bench, ready and eager to get into the game with the expectation of a positive outcome.
What Does It Mean
What does it mean to “Suit up and Show up” ? Showing up means being ready for whatever comes next. Not just braced for something negative to happen, but also proactively seeking something good, and working toward better outcomes, celebrating the wins that we do experience. It means keeping ourselves in a healthy, balanced emotional state so we can “show up” as the powerful parent our kids need to find their way to success. When we are tired, frustrated, scared, worried about the future, or just ready to throw in the towel, we are not showing up as our best self. (Click here to read more about Why I Needed a Therapist!)
Suiting up requires the mental preparedness that we get when we educate ourselves and understand more about our kids. When that understanding is coupled with showing up, it will produce results. When you suit up and show up, you just never know what manner of good things might happen. If you’re going to project into the future, at least project positive outcomes! (Click here to ready more about our Independence Readiness training.)