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Learning to Be Flexible

Learning to Be Flexible

Learning to be flexible is essential in creating a successful life with someone on the autism spectrum. If we are too rigid, demanding and insistent on having things a certain way, it will really complicate our life and create stress for everyone. It is very likely...

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Social Conformity

Social Conformity

Much of the social conformity that comes naturally to the rest of us originates from innately knowing and following the social rules without thought. We act, think and do things the way we do because that is just how they are done in our world, no questions asked. We...

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Do you think people with autism can lie?

Do you think people with autism can lie?

While being a "rule-follower" is often part of the personality and character make up of an individual on the spectrum, sometimes to the extreme that we might feel like they are policing a situation, that doesn't necessarily correlate to always telling the truth. I...

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Meet Them Where They Are

Meet Them Where They Are

Trying to force someone with autism to do it “right,” or like the rest of us, is like trying to force a left-handed person to function in a right-handed way. It can be done, and some people with autism can learn to look very “right handed,” very socially acceptable,...

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Suit up and show up

Suit up and show up

One of the best pieces of advice I ever got, was “Suit up and show up.” Woody Allen once said “80 percent of success is showing up.” And so it is... Certainly, if you don’t show up, your likelihood of success in any endeavor is hugely diminished. You can’t win a game...

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One Day a Time

One Day a Time

I remember years ago, in the final week of school before Christmas, when my son with ASD was failing several classes in middle school, I couldn’t get him interested in anything but video games, and his favorite pastime was kicking his brother down the stairs, I hit...

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Do you have a PhD in autism?

Do you have a PhD in autism?

I don’t have a university issued PhD, although I often wish I did; sometimes I even beat myself up for not knowing more. Yet in many ways, I know so much more than those educated PhD’s, who have no idea (ok maybe they have theoretical knowledge, but no personally...

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Coming to Terms with Life with Autism (Part 2)

Coming to Terms with Life with Autism (Part 2)

As our understanding of autism grows, we adapt our methods of relating and communicating to better suit our autistic loved one’s understanding of the world. Because those individuals with autism are not receiving and integrating social information like the rest of us,...

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Coming to Terms with Life with Autism (Part 1)

Coming to Terms with Life with Autism (Part 1)

Autism takes many forms, and is very misunderstood in the general population. The old stereotype of a child, rocking in a corner, unable to speak or function still comes to mind for many. I see this in the faces of people when I tell them that my son is autistic....

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Parenting a Child on the Autism Spectrum is Emotional

Parenting a Child on the Autism Spectrum is Emotional

Being a parent of a child on the spectrum is a very emotional experience for most of us. Before the autism is diagnosed, we frantically try to make life work, and often find that we aggravated the pain and frustration more than calm it. None of us wants to push our...

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Life Before Diagnosis

Life Before Diagnosis

Like most of you who have had a child diagnosed with ASD, our journey was a struggle. Before the diagnosis, I felt desperate and confused. One minute my son seemed so “normal” and the next minute he was melting down because he could not tie his shoes! I distinctly...

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What are Limitations Anyway?

What are Limitations Anyway?

On the one hand, there is nothing more compassionate we can do than to understand our loved ones with autism and be compassionate about their struggles. If you are a parent and trying to “therapize” a child into being non-autistic, or into acting like someone who is...

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